Did you meet a woman you like? Are you struggling with the decision to stay with her or find someone else (or just be single?) I get it! The problem is that most of us can easily find faults in someone else and struggle with whether or not they will be a good addition to our life.

While there are definitely some signs that you should move on, there are some signs that let you know that woman is worth keeping around. Is she girlfriend material? If you see the following 11 traits (or at least a lot of them), then she’s a keeper.

She’s supportive: She’s a fan of all our endeavours, and doesn’t delight in belittling us, mocking our efforts or generally ruining our mojo. If we feel we have a mission or calling in life, then we need someone who will help, not hinder us.

She’s honest: Even when it’s not easy to hear. We’ll get along just fine with a “yes” woman…for a while. But to  build something lasting, we’ll need someone who is happy to call us on our bullshit. Also, an honest  person who is not afraid to say how they feel about things will be less likely to say stuff to please us,  and then put up with something they actually dislike — that’s the road to resentment, which can destroy relationships.

She has a Great Sense of Humor or Sarcasm: If she doesn’t have a good sense of humor, then gloomy days may be ahead. But if she does have a great sense of humor, then the chances are high that the future with her is going to be full of fun and laughs, which makes her great girlfriend material! Think of it this way: You don’t want to spend your life with a girl who refuses to see the humor in situations. Why? Because you will spend a lot of time cheering her up and trying to force her to laugh, which will be exhausting and frustrating. If she can already laugh things off, then you and your relationship will have a much easier time during harder periods.

She tells you what you don't want to hear: Some women will tell you everything you want to hear. Avoid those women. They are not being upfront and honest about their feelings, thoughts, or beliefs, and down the road you are going to have to deal with the disagreements and stress of her finally opening up and being honest about what she wants.A woman who is upfront and tells you what you don’t want to hear is not scared to tell you it like it is, which means you will always know what is on her mind. You won’t have to guess. You won’t have to wonder. And, you will be able to work through issues faster because she won’t be scared to tell you what is really bothering her.

She respects your beliefs: A woman who doesn’t totally respect your beliefs (about whatever) will try to change you in the future. Why? Her point of view is different than yours, and she will eventually try to sway you over to her side (i.e. change you). A woman who respects your beliefs, even if she doesn’t believe them, will be more likely to let you be you now and in the future. She will find a way to make you and her work regardless of your different beliefs. That is a woman worth keeping around.

The three F’s: Family, friends and faith (or lack of!): If she can’t respect these three areas of our life, then she’s not the one for us. Whatever our beliefs, she needs live with and respect them. She might not think all our friends are great, but she needs to not be too selective about which of them she wants to spend time around. If she does that, she’s making it harder for us to be around them, and effectively limiting our contact with them. That rings our ‘she’s trying to change who I am’ alarm bell.

She Doesn’t Freak out about your Pasts: Your past is your past…it has made you who you are, and it is an important part of you. A woman who freaks out about ex-girlfriends or past experiences is not worth your time. Trust me, if she is freaking out about your ex now, it is going to be a bigger issue when you become closer. A woman who knows that you have a past and doesn’t judge you for it, will be less likely to hold it against you in the future, or judge you in the future. We all have them, but how we relate to them or describe our relationship with them says a lot about how available we are. If she’s still fighting with them, she’s probably not available, or could be demonstrating how things will end in your relationship. If she’s their best buddy, then that’s possibly not a great sign either.

She likes herself: Someone who isn’t comfortable in their own skin is holy hell to deal with. Occasional compliment fishing or looking for reassurance about something is on the normal scale. Someone looking for that stuff all the time shows no confidence, and will wear out even the most patient man. A woman who doesn’t like herself is going to be hell to deal with. She will need your reassurance, consistently, and she can be draining to your health and happiness. On the other hand, a woman who likes herself is definitely girlfriend material. She will not (always) need your reassurance that she is beautiful, smart, funny, or worthy. She will already know that! (Note: This doesn’t mean that she won’t need your assurance occasionally or about specific areas of life, like body image, but it does mean that she won’t need as much as a woman who doesn’t like herself at all.)

She Forgives Easily: Holding on to grudges from the past is the best way to make any relationship miserable. If you find a woman hasn’t forgiven a lot of people from her past, then chances are she will not forgive you if you do something that upsets her in the future. Forgiveness is important for happiness. If she shows that she bears grudges and finds it difficult to forgive and move on where exes  are concerned, with colleagues or in any area of life, then she’s not the one for us. We’re not looking for a pushover, but someone who understands that the past is the past and can leave it where it belongs.

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