When we speak of the 21st century lady, we often tend to cast our minds to successful and distinguished ladies of our time; ladies such as Hillary Clinton, Theresa May, Mo Abudu among many others we are familiar with. However the 21st lady goes beyond that. The 21st lady possesses the following characteristics.

She is gracious: the 21st century lady is never above thanking someone, no matter who or how small it seems. She is sincerely thankful and always expresses her gratitude in a meaningful way.

She is a leader: the 21st century lady sets the precedent in any given situation. She knows that she has influence and uses it to lead people to good.

She is steadfast: the 21st century lady is consistent across time and circumstances. When she makes a commitment to herself, she doesn’t allow pressure or trends to cause her to waver.

She promotes moral excellence: the 21st century lady does the right thing even when no one else is looking. She thrives on her moral prosperity.


She is honest: She says what she means and means what she says. She is direct, never passive aggressive, she does not leave room for interpretation.

She is self-aware: the 21st century lady is aware of the experience others are having with her. She quickly realizes when she is in the wrong and needs to apologize to someone.

She thinks before she speaks: A 21st century lady takes a moment before speaking her mind to ask herself if the comment is necessary, kind or helpful. If it isn’t, she reconsiders making a reckless comment.

She is the best-version of herself: such a lady doesn’t downplay her beauty, gifts or intelligence in order to please others or make people comfortable. She walks in the best version of herself which actually releases other women to do the same.

She uses her words wisely: the 21st century lady refrains from gossip and negative talk, remembering that her words are the reflection of the content in her heart.

She is hospitable: Even if she doesn’t necessarily have the innate gift of hospitality, she does her best to ensure her guests or the people around her are comfortable.

She draws boundaries: Being kind doesn’t mean you are a people pleaser. A 21st century lady has boundaries in place regarding what she will and will not allow and people know where the line is drawn usually without her saying anything.

She is original: She has role-models and mentors, but she never copies or compares. A 21st century lady knows that being inspired by God will lend to longevity and passion.

She knows when to let things go: A 21st century lady picks her battles and realizes that getting upset or flustered is actually giving her power away. She remains un-offended.

She is humble: she gracefully allows others to shine and have their moments.

A 21st Century lady cares properly for her hygiene and health: She knows she can not be dynamic in her purpose if she is not making her health a priority. She is also sure to have breath mints and deodorant in an effort to not be offensive.

She is always learning and remains teachable: A 21st century lady is constantly growing, is thirsty for wisdom and is never a “know it all.”

She is a generous listener: she listens to others with grace and does not jump into baseless conclusions.


She is a peace-maker: A 21st century lady doesn’t contribute to dissension, discord or division among friends. She does not stir up drama. She is a vessel of mediation and peace.

She is noble: A lady does the good thing even when it is not expected of her. For example, she blesses someone’s reputation who has attempted to curse hers.

She values her body: a 21st century lady doesn't just spread her legs at the sight of every good looking guy in the name of being the hottest girl on campus

She is a seeker of truth: A 21st century lady is not spineless. She defends the truth even when it isn’t popular.

She has a heart for justice: she has a strong sense of right and wrong and is passionate to see the oppressed redeemed.

She believes in her Creator: A 21st century lady knows that her identity is rooted in her Maker. Her strength and vision come from daily prayer.

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Toluwani Adesegha is a speaker and Writer with enormous influence in life motivation. He blogs at iamtoluwani.com  

OP-ed pieces are opinions of the writer and they do not reflect the opinions of Volts Africa.

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