These days we struggle to actually live out who we are and who we're made by god to be. God didn't make a mistake in creating you. he created you for a divine purpose, so stop that identity battle, crush that low self esteem because 1 peter 2:9 clearly gives us an insight to who we are.

“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” ~E.E Cummings

Here are easy suggestions for building the being you habit. Pick one or more if you like.

1. Express your uniqueness daily.
Create a daily practice of doing or saying something that expresses you without regard to its popularity or commonality. It can be as simple as a wardrobe choice or saying no to a social engagement that will leave you feeling drained.
2. Make time for brief moments of solitude.
Even just a few minutes during the day can help you connect to yourself rather than being caught up in outside forces.
3. Re-connect to a childhood passion.
Think about what you loved to do as a kid as it can be a clue to your truest expressions. Anything you want to try today?
4. Write down three things that you truly value.
Take one small action every day to express your values.
5. Go easy on the pressure.
There’s a difference between compromising your true self and having multiple passions. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to make the right choice when it comes to your calling. Sometimes you just have to pick something and take action.
6. Create relationships based on being you.
Some people are more naturally inclined to care what others think. If you are one of those people, you also likely have a great propensity to be empathetic. Build upon that strength and reach out to others to get the support you need.
7. Find your mantra.
Sometimes we end up compromising who we are because it is hard to say no. Write down on a small card your response to requests for your time or an opinion you are not prepared to give. Doesn’t have to be eloquent—“Huh, I’ll have to think about that” works.
8. Support someone else in self-expression.
When you see someone standing out rather than fitting in, be a voice of encouragement and support.
9. Create art.
Buy a small journal or notebook just for self-expression. It will be one of the best purchases you will ever make. Spend even one minute a day writing or drawing a picture. No directions required.
10. Remind yourself how important this is.
Hang up a sign with the quote at the beginning of this post or another that reminds you the importance of being you.

If you feel like your true self is lost under the debris of fitting in, take heart, call a counsellor, you are closer than you think. If you are a being you master, then add to the above list. 

op-ed pieces are opinions of the writer and do not conform with the views of Volts Africa and its affiliations

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