Stop talking to your exes hoping they'll change. 
Stop talking to your exes thinking it might work out the next time around. 
Stop giving people who hurt you a million and one chances. After one or two chances and no change, they're not going to. 
Stop talking to your exes when you miss them. 
Stop talking to your exes when you're lonely. Learn the difference between being lonely and being alone. 
Stop talking to your exes just because you feel like no one else will ever love you. Your feelings are a direct result of their inability to love you fully. 
Stop talking to your exes when you know they've moved on. 
Stop talking to your exes when you know they're not good for you. 
Stop using "they were my everything" as an excuse to not come to terms with what's now. 
Stop allowing someone from your past control your present. 
         There's so much to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who doesn't. There's a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way, and it doesn't need to be painful or empty. Sometimes you're not falling in love because whatever you need to know about yourself is only knowable through solitude. You need to fill yourself up with love. Not anyone else. Become a whole being on your own. Go on adventures, visit museums, attend concerts, wander around the city at night, sit in a coffee shop on your own, write on bathroom stalls, leave notes in library books, dress up for yourself, give to others, smile a lot. Do all things with love, but don't romanticise life like you can't survive without it. Live for yourself and be happy on your own. It isn't any less beautiful, I tell you. On occasion, you might find yourself disturbed by memories of what were. Memories with the effect of dementor's presence which threaten to suck out your current happiness. On such days I suggest you accept what was, give thanks for what is and take a nap as soon as you can. You should feel better when you wake up. 

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